My dear ones often believe that I have the power to see the positive in people and situations around me. I am grateful for their kindness and would like to believe their belief. However, I also acknowledge that a positive mindset, like many other qualities, is learned and developed; we aren’t born with it.  

In this story, I want to talk about my journey of learning and unlearning that has made it possible to maintain a positive approach : )  

A positive approach doesn’t mean erasing the negatives 

Often, when I used to think about things going south in life, I was told of how I was overthinking or how I got to have a positive approach in life. However, experiences taught me that a positive approach doesn’t mean erasing the possibility of negatives or only focusing on the positives. Instead, it means to think of the worst and be prepared for the best. A positive approach helps us gain the confidence that we shall handle things healthily even if things go against our plan or our manifestations.  

Developing a positive mindset isn’t easy  

We realize the importance of a positive mindset when negativity surrounds us. And when surrounded by negativity, believing and working towards positivity is like walking against the storm. It isn’t easy, but it is what helps us survive. A few things that helped me make this journey easy were –  

• Avoiding isolation  

It is common for us to close our doors to other people when we face troubles. A constant wave of negativity can be traumatic. However, isolation kept me away from positive energy and made me more vulnerable to being attacked by the surrounding negativity.  

• Being surrounded by a healthy support system  

As mentioned before, this journey isn’t easy. Avoiding isolation doesn’t mean being out in the open randomly. We still got to be mindful of the people we surround ourselves with. Being constantly in the company of people who see and value us is crucial. My support system appreciated and called me out as and when needed. Their intentions were not to please or break me; they helped me bounce back after my falls.  

• Trusting our gut 

How do we know people’s intentions? This can be challenging, but trusting my gut worked for me. My body often sends me signals when it senses something to be off or unsafe. This might often be misunderstood or ignored, but the key is to be mindful and take your time before responding or agreeing to people’s demands and situations.  

Acceptance is the green sign here  

Signs of developing positivity are not the absence of estimating negativity; it is acceptance. Positivity leads to acceptance. We start feeling at peace with ourselves and the happenings and people around us. These may not be the best you desire, but you accept them and can function well amidst them.  

Even with all my focus on being mindful and positive, there are moments when I miss it. I fail often, but every time, I fail better. I know the things I can work on for the next time and avoid labeling myself as a failure.   

It’s a bumpy ride, but it’s a fun ride!  

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