The COVID-19 pandemic had thrown the world into uncertainty, and it was no different for me. I had just graduated from post-graduation, and the world looked daunting. The news of rising layoffs only added to my panic. I had worked hard to get to where I was, and the thought of not finding a job that suited my skills was overwhelming. Most places of my interest wanted people with many years of experience, adding to my panic as a fresher.  

Desperate, I began applying for any job I could find. I was applying for jobs that didn’t mention work details or active contact details. I remember applying for a job at a reputed institute in India, qualifying, and making it to the last round. But after that, there were days of silence. The Institute ghosted me, and I had to live with my anxieties and endless questions –  

“When will I hear from them?” 

“Will I hear from them?” 

“Was I selected?”  

“How long should I wait to see other places?”  

“What if they reach me later? I liked the position here.” 

“Am I the problem?”  

“Is my phone working?”  

“Are my emails active?”  

“Any issues with my network?”  

The Institute's contact details were inactive. Ten days passed, and I thought of asking other people in my network if anybody had additional contact information for the reputed Institute. I got none. But what I got was a piece of priceless advice and a gentle reminder from a dear friend –  

“Why do you want to work with an organization that’s making you run for a call? The one that’s right for you will call you; it won’t make you run for something as basic as an update. They will treat you right.”  

Seeking help and talking to a trusted one reminded me how in my passion for getting a job, I forgot that my need for a job didn't mean I should settle for something less than what I deserved. I was ready to accept anything that came my way as long as it paid my bills.  

I would have compromised my time, confidence, and respect if I had kept waiting to hear from the reputed Institute. Add to it the decline in my mental health. Instead,  

• I applied mindfully to positions that looked promising for my career and  

• Where the professionals made me feel respected.  
• I looked for the right opportunities and did not let myself settle for less.  
• This took time, but I didn’t waste any time by staying in places that made me wait without purpose.  

Eventually, I landed a lovely job where I didn't have to run to know the details of my work. The interviewers made me feel warm and welcoming; the kindness and understanding were mutual. They appreciated my skills and encouraged me to grow.  

For those reading my story,  

• You will get what you hope for and more.  
• Remember the power of kindness. When times are tough, the need for kindness increases. Use kind words when you talk to yourself and others.  
• Encourage yourself to stay focused and motivated toward your goals.  
• Be kind to yourself. All of us, at some time, feel overwhelmed and panicked. But see if you can take a step back and reassess your priorities. It helps.  

 You are not alone in your struggle for the right job. 

Please seek the help and support you deserve!  

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