Let’s Explore: Trying

As we move through life—whether as a mother, teacher, partner, or just a “liver” (as Orry might say)—we often drift away from acknowledging our own unique roots. We get caught up in roles and responsibilities, consumed by outcomes of projects, responses to our efforts, or even the silence we receive in return. And in those moments, we tend to be hard on ourselves—and sometimes on others too.

But here's a gentle reminder: to truly be with someone—in any capacity—it helps to understand who we are when we’re alone.

This might mean asking:

Why does silence feel awkward to me?
Why do I need to plan everything while others seem more spontaneous?
Why do I long for connection, even when I feel so different?

All of this speaks to one truth: we are social beings. And understanding our own rhythms helps us show up more intentionally in relationships.

Growing Up Without Models

Many of us didn’t grow up with healthy models of relationships—whether with friends, family, or romantic partners. But growth isn’t about being perfect. It’s about trying.

Trying to love.
Trying to be loved.
Trying to repair.
Trying to allow healing.

The depth of any relationship isn’t defined by its smoothness, but by how we navigate its bumps.

When Rupture Happens

Have you ever felt a break—a rupture—in a relationship with someone close?

If so, consider:

What were your thoughts or feelings in that moment?
Did the rupture feel like an end—or an opening?

Can we see that moment not as a failure, but as a chance to understand each other better? Rather than turning away or placing blame, what would it look like to lean in with care?

When we say, “I needed you the most when I was at my lowest,”—are we actively communicating that need? Or hoping someone will guess?

Silent treatments and lack of communication often build walls. Honest, kind expression, on the other hand, helps us build bridges.

Love, Imperfection & Self-Compassion

Love is not about perfection or performance. It’s not about becoming someone else. It’s about compassion—for others and for yourself.

So this week, can we try shifting our focus?

Try letting go of the pressure to meet impossible expectations.
Try making room for the parts of yourself you’ve been told are “too much.”
Try approaching yourself—and others—with gentleness.

That’s where connection begins.

Your Weekly Reflection

Use these prompts to dig deeper:

What is your relationship with silence and solitude?
How do you respond to emotional ruptures—with others and with yourself?
What does “trying” look like for you right now?

Remember: your motivations, your wounds, your gifts—they all matter. What you bring into this world is not “too much.” It’s probably exactly what someone else needs.

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