Feeling Stuck? Here's How to Make Better Decisions

When Decisions Feel Overwhelming

Making decisions can be tough. We’ve all had moments where we think, “I wish someone could just decide for me!” or “Why is this so hard?” But taking ownership of our choices gives us autonomy and helps us feel more in control — even when things are uncertain.

Here are some practical ways to cope with the anxiety and pressure that often accompany decision-making:

Step 1: Make a Pros and Cons List

It may sound cliché, but it works. Listing your thoughts down on paper (not just in your head!) helps bring clarity. A visible list can:

Help you weigh positives and negatives
Strengthen your ability to take calculated risks
Prepare you emotionally for possible outcomes
Help you confront future challenges with greater awareness

Example: Considering a Job in Another City

Pros	Cons
I will learn to live by myself	I will have an escalation in expenses
I will have more time for myself	I will have to manage everything by myself

Note: Relying only on lists can oversimplify complex decisions. Keep other factors in mind too.

Step 2: Write Down Your Feelings

It’s not just about what will happen — it’s also about how you might feel. Jotting down emotions alongside each pro and con can help you:

Understand your emotional readiness
Identify potential sources of anxiety or excitement
Avoid ignoring important feelings that affect your satisfaction

With Feelings Added:

Pros	Cons
I will learn to live by myself – Which can boost my confidence	I will have an escalation in expenses – Which might affect my budget
I will have more time for myself – Better mental health	I will have to manage everything alone – Could increase stress

Reminder: Balance your emotions with logic. Solely relying on feelings may lead to impulsive decisions.

Step 3: Discuss It Out

Share your thoughts with someone you trust — a friend, a partner, a mentor, or someone who may be affected by your decision. Talking it out can:

Provide clarity and perspective
Reveal blind spots in your reasoning
Offer emotional support and encouragement

Choose safe and supportive spaces. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about it, that’s valid too.

Remember: Advice is helpful, but the final decision should align with your values and goals.

Step 4: Ask Yourself “Why?”

Ask: “Why am I making this decision?”
Repeat it until your answer feels aligned with your goals and values. Doing so helps:

Strengthen your purpose
Build confidence in your choices
Prevent unnecessary self-doubt later

Caution: Avoid overanalyzing. Obsessing over every detail can lead to indecision.

Final Thoughts: You’ve Got This

Decision-making isn’t always easy — and that’s okay. These tools aren’t about making the perfect decision; they’re about making an informed and self-aware one.

Every choice teaches us something. So take a breath, trust the process, and remember: You’re doing your best.

Need Extra Support?

If you or someone you know is struggling to make an important decision, especially in areas covered by iDare’s work, reach out to our ‘Support’ and ‘Engage’ verticals for affordable and inclusive psycho-legal guidance.

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