Darlings – A Dark Comedy That Reveals the Red Flags in Intimate Relationships

A Bold Take on a Social Issue

Jasmeet K. Reen’s directorial debut, Darlings, was released on 5th August 2022 on Netflix. Starring Alia Bhatt, Shefali Shah, Vijay Sharma, and Roshan Mathew as the main leads, the film has received much appreciation for focusing on domestic abuse and addiction – a social issue affecting many.  

With brilliant performances by the leads, the film can feel real and relatable given our culture that normalizes and encourages intimate partner violence. A dark comedy film, Darlings often makes you feel Badru’s (Alia Bhatt) pain and gets you agitated over Hamza’s (Vijay Sharma) behavior. With a few hard-hitting moments, the film can be a little triggering and gory to watch, but the positives definitely outweigh the negatives.

A Risk That Pays Off

It is quite a risk to portray a social issue through dark comedy and satire, but Darlings manages to do so creatively. The film addresses the problem of domestic violence with performances that feel fresh and engaging. The storyline keeps you hooked, and while you laugh at some of the most tragic moments, one cannot forget that it’s about shattered hopes, ignored red flags, and painful realities.  

Recognizing Red Flags in Intimate Relationships

Here are a few ways the film tried to show what red flags look like in intimate relationships:

1. They Wear a Mask

The often loving and caring Hamza has his hands across Badru’s face within the blink of an eye at the slightest inconvenience. His addiction and abusive traits are usually masked by his affectionate moments, gaslighting Badru into believing, “he is not in control of his anger once drunk,” or “it’s just the alcohol; otherwise, he loves me a lot.”

2. They Are Misogynists

Hamza often commented on how Badru didn’t know how to cook or clean well, how she wasn’t a good wife, and how she kept aspiring for more. These remarks reflect a mindset deeply rooted in patriarchy – where women are judged by how well they fit into the “ideal wife” stereotype. 

3. They Are Unwilling to Change

Despite Badru’s efforts, Hamza shows no intent to quit his drinking habits. His addiction distances him further from his conscience, making it harder to change or unlearn toxic behavior – something essential for a healthy relationship.

4. They Disrespect Your Support System

Hamza regularly disrespects Badru’s mother – her biggest support. He insults her, mocks her, and abuses her to isolate Badru. Abusers often do this to remove any threat to their control.

5. You Are Scared of Them

Badru becomes terrified when she realizes Hamza knows about the police complaint. Her fear is not situational; it’s embedded in her daily reality. Abuse thrives on fear and intimidation – and Badru’s story reflects that accurately.

Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships

Amidst all these red flags, many people find it hard to leave abusive relationships. They hope things will change. Some stay out of love, others out of guilt, and many due to dependency – emotional, financial, or societal.

A Few Critical Realities to Keep in Mind

While the film captures the subject well, it’s important for us as viewers to remember:

1. Domestic violence is a global reality and not limited to any religion or class.

2. Not every survivor has a supportive mother like Badru did.

3. Not everyone has someone like Zulfi to anonymously report abuse on their behalf.

4. Real-life survival from domestic abuse can be far more difficult and far less entertaining.

Reach Out for Help

If you or somebody you know is experiencing domestic violence, red flags in relationships, or intimate partner violence, please reach out to our Support Executives and Mental Health Counselors through the ‘Engage’ and ‘Support’ Verticals available on the app.

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