Are You “Only” Good?

Maybe All Parts of You Can Exist

As we traverse through life—as a mother, teacher, boyfriend, or simply a “liver,” as Orry would put it—we often hesitate to embrace our own unique complexities. What this really means is that as we move through different roles and phases, we get caught up in the meaning we assign to outcomes—whether it’s a failed project, a word of praise, or even an unexpected silence.

And in those reflective moments, we may find ourselves being harsh—either toward others, or more often, toward ourselves.

Why Self-Awareness Matters

To truly connect with someone—no matter the relationship—it’s essential to understand who we are when we’re alone.

Self-awareness might look like:

Noticing why silence feels uncomfortable and needs to be filled
Realizing that planning calms your nerves, even if others find it exhausting
Recognizing our shared need for connection—because being “social beings” is part of our wiring

This Week’s Reflection: Accepting All Parts of Ourselves

There is likely a version of you right now who is ready to work or study—while simultaneously feeling overwhelmed, joyful, confused, or sad in another corner of your emotional landscape.

Can all of these parts coexist?

Let’s explore:

Can you allow yourself to experience a spectrum of emotions, without shaming or denying parts of you?
Can you make space for the possibility that it’s okay to feel like a “mixed bag” at times?
How have you responded in the past when you’ve had more than one feeling at once?
Are you reconsidering how you'd like to respond to these emotional states moving forward?
What kind of gentle reminder could help you in those moments?
Examples:
→ “I’m in a spectrum right now.”
→ “It’s a cloudy day—not a bad life.”

You Are Allowed to Be Complex

This is your invitation to make peace with all the shades and shadows that make you you. We are not built to be consistent, linear, or easy to categorize—and that’s not a flaw, it’s humanity.

By embracing your full self, you might discover not chaos, but depth.

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